I have a short bachelorette party rant...
For all those twenty somethings out there...listen closely...
I am in my thirties and during my twenties all my friends got married for the most part...average wedding...I probably spent over $2,000. Between jetting around the country for bachelorette parties, paying for the bride's room, paying for the bride's cover charges, drinks and other expenses, paying for the bride's engagement party, paying for all the wedding related expenses like dress, hair, makeup and travel...you get the picture.
One of the most lavish brides...got married during a particularly difficult year...we were only 24 and I had just moved and changed jobs...I literally went into debt with her wedding...every time I tried to push back my friends would say how "mean" I was being and how when it was my turn it would all come around...newsflash ladies...it doesn't.
The lavish bride never offered to do anything when I had my engagement party...my FI and I paid for the entire thing ourselves...she didn't even bring her husband and got trashed and just sat on my couch the whole night...then I get a call from her this weekend...guess who is flaking on my bachelorette party.
"Hey I know this is so annoying only blah blah blah blah is going on this weekend so I can't come."
"I am sad. I was totally looking forward to seeing you."
"Ya you know how it is."
"I guess. I appreciate you calling me."
"You know how it is...when we were in our twenties our weddings were like the social event of the year and now it's like...you know...we all have lives."
The thing is...I had a great thing going in my twenties and those weddings were not the social event of the year...only we made those girls the center of attention because...that is what you do for your friends...no matter how young or old they are.
I am just sad...mostly because now that it is my turn all the twenty something brides are more caught up with themselves then ever...sure they have moved on to the next "stage" only this "stage" for me is pretty exciting too...I am just happy that I matured enought to realize how self centered people can be.
End of rant haha.