Bachelorette Party Napa Style

Last night was my last bachelorette party. I used to work in Napa so I met up with my old Napa friends and we hit up Michael Chiarello's new restaurant Bottega.

It was fun. We relaxed in the outside bar area until dinner and had some fun appetizers and drinks. Then we headed inside for some salad (lots of good bread) and pasta.

We were all doing a little bachelorette quiz game and Michael Chiarello came out and asked us what we were doing. He was totally laughing and gave me the Italian two cheek kiss and wedding best. Then my friends took our picture. Can you see how embarassed I am?!

A really fun night with wonderful friends, good food and cute chefs...who could ask for more?

It's Official...I Am a Bachelorette

First of many...I am still detoxing from my bachelorette party last weekend.

This is Confidential restaurant in downtown San Diego.

Such a fun night.

A Bachelorette and a Veil

What is it with a veil?

(This one is a bride by Jennifer Bowen).

My bachelorette weekend was this past weekend...it was amazing. I totally see myself as a bride now. Why? My friend put a veil on me the first night out...suddenly I was transformed into a bride!

We went out the first night and people in the street were yelling..."Congratulations!" it was awesome. Then the weird veil petting started. Men, young men, old men, middle age men patting my head, petting my veil, tugging on my veil and trying to pull me by my veil. Seriously guys?!

What is it about girls that are unatainable? Do guys just like the chase? Do they want a girl with no strings attached? I totally don't get it.

It all started when I first got engaged. I went on a business trip to Kansas City. I flashed my ring around the room and made sure every one knew I was engaged. I was so excited. Then it started...old men...young men...middle age men starting flirting with me, asking me out, propositioning me and trying to get me to go home with them. The weird part is...this rarely happened when I was single.

Is it me? Is it them? What is different about a bride that drives guys crazy and makes them act so weirdly out of character?

I made it home with my veil in one piece...and now I just like to walk by it and it makes me smile. I am getting married!

Bachelorette Party Countdown-Four Days

I have a short bachelorette party rant...

For all those twenty somethings out there...listen closely...

I am in my thirties and during my twenties all my friends got married for the most part...average wedding...I probably spent over $2,000. Between jetting around the country for bachelorette parties, paying for the bride's room, paying for the bride's cover charges, drinks and other expenses, paying for the bride's engagement party, paying for all the wedding related expenses like dress, hair, makeup and travel...you get the picture.

One of the most lavish brides...got married during a particularly difficult year...we were only 24 and I had just moved and changed jobs...I literally went into debt with her wedding...every time I tried to push back my friends would say how "mean" I was being and how when it was my turn it would all come around...newsflash ladies...it doesn't.

The lavish bride never offered to do anything when I had my engagement party...my FI and I paid for the entire thing ourselves...she didn't even bring her husband and got trashed and just sat on my couch the whole night...then I get a call from her this weekend...guess who is flaking on my bachelorette party.

"Hey I know this is so annoying only blah blah blah blah is going on this weekend so I can't come."

"I am sad. I was totally looking forward to seeing you."

"Ya you know how it is."

"I guess. I appreciate you calling me."

"You know how it is...when we were in our twenties our weddings were like the social event of the year and now it's like...you know...we all have lives."

"Sure."

The thing is...I had a great thing going in my twenties and those weddings were not the social event of the year...only we made those girls the center of attention because...that is what you do for your friends...no matter how young or old they are.

I am just sad...mostly because now that it is my turn all the twenty something brides are more caught up with themselves then ever...sure they have moved on to the next "stage" only this "stage" for me is pretty exciting too...I am just happy that I matured enought to realize how self centered people can be.

End of rant haha.